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What the Hell effect

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May 27, 2022

What The Hell effect


You know when you set yourself a goal, like not to eat choccie’s at work, then you eat choccie’s, then instead of not eating more choccie’s, you’re like, “Well, I’ve already eaten some choccie’s I might as well eat ALL the choccies?”  


That’s called the “What the Hell” effect (or counterregulatory behaviour for the nerds) 


You know like, “ah what the hell, I’ve already broken my promise a little, why not go the whole way”


It’s not a great strategy


Which you probably realise, so why do you do it? 


And, more importantly, how can you stop doing it? Or, at least stop doing it so badly


Firstly, you need to understand what’s going on


When you do something that makes you feel bad, you try to make yourself feel better


This leads to a cycle, because it’s actually the feeling of guilt and shame of that error that in turn makes you look for something quick and easy to achieve that


That often means reaching for the food that made you feel bad in the first place 



What the hell to do instead



And, the fix for this is found in the problem itself


It’s really important to make note of the way you talk to yourself during this process


Once you make a bad decision, do you tell yourself off, and talk down to yourself?


“You’ve failed again, like you always do, why do you even try, this never works, you have no discipline and no self control” 


Or, do you talk to yourself with compassion? 


“It happened, but it doesn’t make you a bad person, you’re still learning and the more you try the better you will get, this is a journey and this is part of the experience that will make you better in time” 


This isn’t an airy fairy difference


It’s critical to your long term success


Being more compassionate about your mistakes leads to better outcomes the next time around


Because you will make mistakes! You will, many of them


Like everyone else does


And good! The mistakes you make now are the lessons that will guide you in the future


Follow this up with, what can I control that might help me the next time this situation pops up? 


So you’re hitting it from two angles, firstly responding with compassion and then with a beginners mind, how can you improve from this


Try it next time you stuff up, because you will, and it won’t be the last time


But it doesn’t have to be the awful experience it is at the moment


Be kind to yourself, and be curious about yourself

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